A lifetime commitment of a man & woman to become one. Matthew 19:6
Hosea, 2: 19
Rev. 19: 7-9
I Tim. 5: 8
I Cor. 7: 2-5 & 39
Heb. 13: 4
Song of Solomon 1: 1 – 8: 14
Deut. 24: 5
I Tim. 3: 4-5 & 12
Eph. 5: 2
I Cor. 13: 1-13
Proverbs 31: 10-31
Eph. 5: 22
Col. 3: 1
I Cor. 11: 3
I Pet. 3: 6
Ordained of God:
Gen. 2: 7
I Tim. 5: 14
Christian Markers for Marriage
Marker One, Walk as Brethren in Love (spiritual): John 17
Bible centered love and concern for souls and Biblical doctrine.
Gentle servant heart and tenderness towards the Holy Spirit.
Quest to know the deep mysteries of God.
Jesus is Lord, really Lord. In the heat of battle, is He Lord?
As to Christian, no marriage can be considered possible unless there is spiritual unity in Christ Jesus (II Cor.6:14-18).
The flesh can easily destroy God’s perfect will at this point.
Marker Two, Compatibility of Soul (psychological).
Unity in gifting, like music, activities, entertainment, praise, worship and etc. Unity in live mission and vision?
Teachable heart, humility, strong desire to help.
Unity or supportive complementation in education, writing, personality? Energy compatibility?
Unity in hand crafts or doing things on a creative level.
Available, Biblically single and available for marriage.
Family breeding will influence the child, what are the parents like? The child will be much like the parents, eventually.
Meyers-Briggs and Hout-Wagner testing is good here.
Witness of the Elders and those in spiritual responsibility.
Marker Three, (Physical).
Athletic unity, active, weight, looks,
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Can you accept him/her as they are now and much later?
Children factor? Unity, stress factors on a bad day?
Age difference factor? Consider end possibilities? Sex?
Finances? Work situations, Job, Location of residence.
Order, in personal effects. Personal discipline, problems?
Past relationships resolved, can the past be forgotton?
Are the markers for the Spirit and Soul in order?
Marriage Today even among church going Christian statically ends in divorce about half of the time. So please not let your hormones or emotions rule the day. Sit down with your prospective mate and really pray for the Holy Spirit to guide you in your decision. Make sure you are not overly concerned about beauty as it does not last very long. Don’t be overly concerned about security as GOD is our security. Do consider the parents as their fruit does not drop very far away from the tree. Move in humility and not manipulation as only GOD’S joining is really successful. Keep your hands open. Don’t try to catch the bird, allow it to land and feel loved and secure but not caged. Deeply consider the union of Proverbs 31:10. Marriage is designed by GOD to allow synergy. The Scriptures teach that one shall put 1000 to flight and 2 shall put 10,000 to flight. So if the UNION is of GOD the marriage will be 5 times stronger than the 2 souls alone. May our LORD guide you in this.
Yours, in HIS great love and wonderful grace and mercy, Ken<><