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DIVORCE          “WORTH CONSIDERING”   12/4/21    From Ken Smith<><

Of course it is best if not to happen, but divorce it is sin,  and it does leave dings in our souls.
But Jesus came to save us from our sin,   1 John 1:9   If we [freely] admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just [true to His own nature and promises], and will forgive our sins and cleanse us continually from all unrighteousness [our wrongdoing, everything not in conformity with His will and purpose]. 10 If we say that we have not sinned [refusing to admit acts of sin], we make Him [out to be] a liar [by contradicting Him] and His word is not in us.

Separation can happen in 3 ways:        1.  Death of a mate,    1 Cor.7:39,   Rom.7:1-25
                                                                     2.  Adultery        Matt. 5:32,   19:9
                                                                     3.  Abandonment    1 Cor. 7:15

As more Christian today are finding themselves in a divorce situation, even more than the world around us,   it is good that we should be able to know about what the Bible says about this issue.   Marriage is designed by God , Matt.19:6   “So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”   Gen. 2:24:   Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  So when God puts a marriage together we see HIM in it.   And when HE does not, we have serious problems.  But Marriage is only in our time dimension relationship and does not exist beyond death.

In the Resurrection:  Matt.22-29,   “But Jesus replied to them, “You are all wrong because you know neither the Scriptures [which teach the resurrection] nor the power of God [for He is able to raise the dead]. 30 For in the resurrection neither do men marry nor are women given in marriage, but they are like angels in heaven [who do not marry nor produce children].

Now we should not read anything into this statement of Jesus.   Jesus only states that Marriage is a time dimension relationship only.   But if you have a good relationship with anyone, including parents, family, children or wife and they are Born from above, John 3, I am sure that the loving relationship will continue for eternity.  The statement only says (only says) that the bond of marriage is for life only and it is very easy to  see why.   Many marriages are not made in heaven and the husband might still be in the “corner of the roof top” even in the heavens. Or the wife still in a hospital.  What it clearly states is that all relationships in heaven will be real and not retained due to customs or religious traditions or even the LAW.  That the former things are passed away.. There is a lot about heaven that we are yet to explore and is now still God’s secret.  So don’t  read into what Jesus teaches that is not there.   We are very adapt at doing that.  Many say the Bible says this and that which is not true.

My feeling is that when a divorce is absolutely final and there is no possibility of reconciliation that either party can repent, receive God forgiveness and start a new chapter in their lives in Jesus.  That even ministers should not be held to the standard of not being divorced.   Husband of one wife in Timothy and Titus has to do with polygamy, which was acceptable to the Jews at that time.   Paul told Timothy and Titus that in ordinations of deacons or elders to make sure that the man was not living in polygamy.  Not that he had not been divorced.  This would make divorce worse than murder.  As Moses, David and Paul had all committed murder.  But they repented and God used them all as mighty leaders.  The only UNPARDONABLE sin is to call the light, darkness and the darkness light.

My personal feeling is that as Adam, when even perfect, God saw that he still needed some good help.  So for a man to seek our Creator of a good wife to help him is part of a man’s design factor.  Depth perception in hearing or seeing takes two vantage points, communicating well together.  Our two eyes give us distance.  Our two ears give us sound direction.   A woman usually goes by emotions and intuition, not always, but mostly and very quickly.  And is mostly concerned about security and comfort.  The man on the other hand, mostly goes by analyzing and thinking things out which takes longer to do.  And of course the emotions and Hormones are not far behind.  And he is basically designed for conquest as per Gen. 1:28.  Peter makes an interesting comment about this in 1 Peter 3:7,   that even “prayers” are hindered if there is a lack of unity between the husband and wife.  So those who are searching for a mate through Christ Jesus should remember to be sure you find a real match of mind, soul and spirit along with body before getting married.   1 Cor. 6:14-15,  “Do not be unequally bound together with unbelievers [do not make mismatched alliances with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership can righteousness have with lawlessness? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15 What harmony can there be between Christ and Belial (Satan)? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?”   So we should be looking for unity, faith, truth & righteousness in being equally bound together in a marriage.

And this does not just cover a marriage between saved and unsaved as more than ½ of Christian Marriages are today,  going down the drain.    But if you would like to be married, please take the time to check out the Spiritual and Psychological and Mental,  John 17, unity factors as well as the physical attraction.  What kind of a ministry calling do you have on your life.   If you are evangelical, do they have a love of lost souls and lay their lives down to get them into the Kingdom?     Do you like to teach Bible, do they like to talk about God’s truth in humility and love.   If they like to organize and move the furniture, do you.  Do you agree with where they want to place it?  How can two walk together unless they be agreed, Amos 3:3.   Or   “A house that is divided against itself can not stand.” Mark 3:25.   And:  Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.  Psalm 127:1.   So if you make a mistake in marriage, it will take years to correct.  And it will be a lonely but well traveled road.   If marriages were all of God and were eternal, there could not be any place called heaven.  Not to be in fear, But be disciplined in the Holy Spirit to be able to hear GOD.

Yours, in HIS great love and wonderful grace and mercy,   Ken<><   www.OhanaChurch.Life

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